Too much advice, too little time
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For parents of kids ages 2 to 18
What to do and say when your childwon't go to bed.
Parenting, Moment by Moment is a calm, step-by-step guide to 527 real situations, from toddler tantrums to teen arguments. Find yours in seconds, see exactly what to say, and try it tonight.
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Sound familiar? Real things parents type, all covered inside
“my son hits other kids”“my daughter breaks her toys”“my child scratches other kids' faces”“should i teach my son to hit back”“my daughter is too shy to talk to people”“fear of oral exams”“my son is scared of dogs”“my daughter is scared of strong wind”“claustrophobia in kids”“my son only eats certain foods”“only eats chips and chocolate”“my daughter dumps her plate every time”“my son wants to eat all the time”“2 year old tantrums”“my son tears up so easily”“my son gives up so easily”“my daughter gets mad when she loses a game”“my kid shrieks all day”“my son always says it's not fair”“my son won't leave the park”“my kid melts down because her cookie broke”“i have to say everything 10 times”“my son argues like a lawyer”“my daughter takes forever to do anything”“my son hits other kids”“my daughter breaks her toys”“my child scratches other kids' faces”“should i teach my son to hit back”“my daughter is too shy to talk to people”“fear of oral exams”“my son is scared of dogs”“my daughter is scared of strong wind”“claustrophobia in kids”“my son only eats certain foods”“only eats chips and chocolate”“my daughter dumps her plate every time”“my son wants to eat all the time”“2 year old tantrums”“my son tears up so easily”“my son gives up so easily”“my daughter gets mad when she loses a game”“my kid shrieks all day”“my son always says it's not fair”“my son won't leave the park”“my kid melts down because her cookie broke”“i have to say everything 10 times”“my son argues like a lawyer”“my daughter takes forever to do anything”
“my kid doesn't help around the house”“my son embarrasses me in front of people”“my daughter refuses to say sorry”“my kid runs the house”“he says ok but never does it”“my daughter cries at every little word”“my child is highly sensitive”“my son loves to show off”“my daughter is big but acts like a little kid”“every other mom is better than me”“my son wants everything his way”“my daughter is an introvert”“my kid refuses to get dressed”“he won't stop playing unless i yell”“every time we go out she says buy me this”“how to travel with a 2 year old”“should i take my son to a funeral”“she interrupts me when i'm talking”“my kid has no patience”“how to keep my kids busy in the summer”“starts crying the minute he walks in the door”“my son depends on me for everything”“she keeps putting off studying”“my son can't sit still”“my kid doesn't help around the house”“my son embarrasses me in front of people”“my daughter refuses to say sorry”“my kid runs the house”“he says ok but never does it”“my daughter cries at every little word”“my child is highly sensitive”“my son loves to show off”“my daughter is big but acts like a little kid”“every other mom is better than me”“my son wants everything his way”“my daughter is an introvert”“my kid refuses to get dressed”“he won't stop playing unless i yell”“every time we go out she says buy me this”“how to travel with a 2 year old”“should i take my son to a funeral”“she interrupts me when i'm talking”“my kid has no patience”“how to keep my kids busy in the summer”“starts crying the minute he walks in the door”“my son depends on me for everything”“she keeps putting off studying”“my son can't sit still”
It's 7:42 p.m.
Your four-year-old is on the floor of the cereal aisle. You have about ten seconds.
You don't need a 300-page book right now, or an hour of videos. You need the next right step, and the words to say. That's what this guide is built for.
You know what not to do. Then what?
“Don't yell” is easy to read and hard to replace when you're tired.
Every activity gives you short steps and the actual words to say.
Is this normal, or something more?
Worry keeps you up at night, and it's hard to know when to call the doctor.
Clear warning signs in three levels tell you when to get help, and how soon.
Try it right here
Pick a moment. See what the guide tells you.
These are real pages from the app, word for word. Inside, there are 527 of them.
Tantrums in public
Parents often say: “my son embarrasses me at the store” · “my kid screams and cries at the mall for a toy”
At this age
Still normal, but more often about wanting you to buy something, or refusing to leave. Your child also notices that you give in more easily in front of other people.
See a doctor or specialist within days if…
Your child runs off toward the street, or puts themselves in danger, on most outings.
Start here
- Before it happensA tantrum in public: move aside, wait, leave if you need to, and ignore the staresIn the moment · 5 to 15 minutes · 5 steps1Before you go out: a child who's fed and rested, a short trip, and one rule you tell them before you leave (“Today we're only getting groceries, no toys or treats”).“To your child: “You're upset. We'll wait here until you calm down, then we'll keep going.” And to anyone who steps in: “Thanks, my child's just a little tired. They'll calm down.”
- In the momentAt the peak: keep everyone safe, say little, stay near, waitIn the moment · Usually 3 to 15 minutes · 5 steps1Safety first: move anything that could break or hurt someone out of the way, or calmly move your child to a safe spot. Use your hands and body to block hitting and biting, without yelling.“I'm here. You're safe. I'll stay with you until you calm down.” Then stop talking. And if they hit you: “I won't let you hit me.”
- In the momentName the feeling, then set the limitIn the moment · Under a minute · 6 steps1Come close, and get your face level with theirs. If they're doing something dangerous, stop them with your hand first.“I know you want to stay at Grandma's house, and playing with your cousins is so much fun. It's time to go home. Do you want to say goodbye with a high five or a hug?”
This is the first part of one situation. Inside: every step, “If that doesn't help”, “When to get help”, what to avoid, and tools.
Unlock all 527527everyday situations
1,327activities, scripts & steps
12interactive tools
14guides for extra needs
6age groups, from 2 to 18
1,372sources consulted
What's inside
Everything you need for the hard moments, in your pocket.
Find it fast
Type it the way you'd say it.
“won't go to bed,” “hits his brother,” “glued to her phone.” The search understands everyday words and finds the right situation for your child's age in a second.
- Search in plain words
- Browse by topic or by age
- Your child's age is remembered
A plan for every moment
Before it happens, in the moment, and after.
Each situation gives you a plan in the order you'll need it: what to set up ahead of time, what to do when it starts, what to say at the peak, and how to repair afterward.
- Start here, then If that doesn't help
- Why each idea is in the plan
- What to avoid, and why
Step-by-step mode
One big, clear step at a time.
When your hands are full, turn on step-by-step mode: one step per screen, in large text, with the words to say. Swipe to the next one. Tap “I'm stuck” and get one thing to try next.
- Short steps that start with an action
- “What to say” for every age
- “I'm stuck” help, built in
Know when it's more
Clear warning signs, in three levels.
Every situation tells you what's normal at your child's age, and when to get help: right now, within days, or at your next appointment. No guessing at 2 a.m.
- Get help now
- See a doctor within days
- Book an appointment
12 tools for your child
Charts and cards your child can use.
A picture routine chart, a star chart, a feelings scale, a calm-down menu, a visual timer, a breathing circle, a bedtime card and more. Use them on screen, or print them for the fridge.
- Interactive, on screen
- Print-ready versions
- A chart for each child
See what's working
Track tries, without scores or streaks.
Log how each try went in one tap. After three complete tries, the app tells you if it seems to help, or if it's time to try another idea. No grades, no guilt.
- Five simple outcomes
- An honest answer after 3 tries
- Printable try log
Every child, every family
More than one child? Of course.
Add each child with their own age, tries and charts. If your child has ADHD, autism, anxiety or another extra need, the plans show the notes written for them.
- Each child's own age and charts
- 14 extra-needs guides
- 93 situations just for extra needs
Easy on tired eyes
Made for the late-night search.
Night mode, three text sizes, calm motion, and big buttons you can tap with one hand. It opens in a second, even with no signal.
- Night mode
- Larger text options
- Works with no internet
Meet the Feeling Friends
Eight friends who help your child name a feeling.
Kids calm down faster when they can say what they feel. Each Feeling Friend has its own shape and color, so even a two-year-old can point and say “That's me.” They live in the feelings tools and on every page about big feelings.
Get lifetime accessEvery topic, toddler to teen
434 everyday situations, in 19 topics you'll recognize.
Plus 93 more for children with extra needs.
Feelings & Behavior
137 situations
- Big Feelings30
- Fears & Worries30
- Mood & Self-Esteem17
- Limits & Cooperation28
- Hitting & Hurting16
- Honesty & Values16
Daily Life, Body & Health
110 situations
- Daily Routines31
- Sleep17
- Food & Eating15
- Toileting & Body Habits19
- Health & Doctors13
- Body, Puberty & Safety15
Relationships, School & Screens
125 situations
- Brothers & Sisters15
- Friends & Peers17
- Family Changes29
- School & Learning32
- Screens & Online Life32
Teens, and You the Parent
62 situations
- The Teen Years32
- You, the Parent30
Grows with your child
One guide from the first “No!” to the last year of high school.
Ages 2–3
Toddlers
Tantrums, biting, “No!” and potty training
Ages 4–5
Preschool
Bedtime stalling, fears, sharing and picky eating
Ages 6–8
Early school
Homework fights, lying, friendships and screens
Ages 9–12
Preteens
Attitude, first phones, sibling rivalry and worry
Ages 13–15
Young teens
Talking back, privacy, moods and social media
Ages 16–18
Older teens
Independence, driving, stress and big decisions
Children with extra needs
Written for your child, too.
14 guides and 93 situations for children with extra needs: what to expect at each age, how to adapt every activity, and when to see a specialist. Choose your child's needs once, and the plans show the notes that fit them.
- ADHD
- Autism
- Anxiety, OCD or selective mutism
- Defiance or conduct problems
- A learning disability
- Sensory differences
- Speech or language delay, or stuttering
- Intellectual disability or developmental delay
- Giftedness or twice-exceptionality
- Depression or low mood
- Trauma or hard life events
- Tics or Tourette syndrome
- A chronic illness or disability
- An eating disorder
Private by design
What happens at home, stays on your phone.
No account. No password. No tracking. Your children's names, notes and tries are saved on your device only, never on our servers. Moving to a new phone? Make a backup file and open it there.
- No sign-up, no login
- No ads, no analytics
- Your notes never leave your device
- Quick exit on sensitive topics
Why parents choose it
A guide that fits the moment you're in.
| Feature | Moment by Moment | A parenting book | Searching online |
|---|---|---|---|
| Covers ages 2 to 18 in one place | Yes | Usually one age | Varies |
| Find your exact moment in seconds | Yes | —No | If you're lucky |
| Step-by-step words to say | Yes | Sometimes | Rarely |
| Clear warning signs: when to get help | Yes | Sometimes | Mixed |
| Works with no internet | Yes | Yes | —No |
| Interactive tools for your child | Yes | —No | —No |
| Pay once, no subscription | Yes | Yes | Free, with ads |
| Your notes stay private | Yes | Yes | —No |
How it works
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Your copy opens
Right after you pay, you come straight back here and the app unlocks on its own. No account, no password. One tap sends the link to your other devices.
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Add it to your home screen
It installs like an app, on iPhone, Android, iPad or computer, and then works with no internet.
Works offline · Free updates for life · Printable sheets included
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Less than one takeout dinner. Help for the next sixteen years.
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Launch price
$29$19one time
- 527 situations, ages 2 to 18
- 1,327 activities with steps and words to say
- Warning signs: when to get help, and how soon
- 12 interactive tools, plus printable sheets
- 8 Feeling Friends for little ones
- 14 extra-needs guides
- Use it on up to 3 devices
- Works offline, private, no account
- Every future update, free
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Is this an app from the App Store?
It's a web app: you open it from a link, then add it to your home screen in two taps, and it works like any other app, even with no internet. Nothing to download from a store, and no store account needed.
Which devices does it work on?
iPhone, iPad, Android phones and tablets, and computers (Mac, Windows, Chromebook), in any up-to-date browser. Your code works on up to 3 devices, so you and your partner can both have it.
Is there a subscription?
No. You pay once ($19 at launch) and keep it for life, with every update included.
Does it really work offline?
Yes. When you open it the first time, everything downloads to your device. After that, every situation, activity and tool opens with no signal.
What ages does it cover?
Ages 2 to 18, in six age groups. Each situation explains what's normal at your child's age, and the plan changes with the age you pick.
My child has ADHD, autism or anxiety. Will it help?
Yes. There are 14 guides and 93 situations for children with extra needs, and you can choose your child's needs so the plans show the notes written for them.
Is this medical advice?
No. It's a practical guide for everyday parenting, for education only. It doesn't replace your child's doctor or a qualified professional. Every situation lists warning signs that tell you when to get help, and in an emergency, call your local emergency number.
Do I need to create an account?
No account and no password. After you pay, the app unlocks on its own. For your other devices, the app gives you a link to open, and your receipt email has your license key too.
What do you do with my data?
Nothing, because we never get it. Everything you save (your children's names, notes, tries) stays on your device. There are no ads and no tracking.
What if it's not for me?
Write to us within 30 days of buying and we'll refund you in full.
The next hard moment is coming. Be ready for it.
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